Tips on Being a 20 something year old

First of all I belong to this group and thus have a hands-on experience of being a 20 something year old. This year I will turn 22 in October. Second of all being a 20 something year old is a lot of fun and a lot of crap at the same time which makes being a 20 syo (something year old) very tricky. Third of all with all being said I believe I have acquired a few skills and a bit of knowledge to handle being a 20 syo thus what I think absolutely matter.



Okay, if you belong to the group, the 20 syo, this entry is for you otherwise this can be a guide note for those who has yet to join this group or a flashback reference for those who were in the group.



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It depends where you live when you are just to enter 20 syo which means you are at the edge of your teen years most probably you are in the college or going to a college. In some countries if you are a male you might be serving your country right now in the millitary or perhaps due to preference instead of going to college you probably are an internee. Higher chance is you are soooooooooooooooooo rich that right now you are reading this blog from your holiday in Maldives.



Okay here are the tips.



Tips number 1.



Feel comfortable at where ever place you are. If you are the biggest nerd on the planet then be it and feel comfortable and OWN it. If you are the dumbass pretty girl with high pitchy voice whose only talent is singing along the Taylor Swift song then be happy with it. Trust me my dear and I am speaking from experience, being a 20 yso is just a continuation from your teen years when you are looking for identity or doing your soul searching. Only difference is you think you are an adult. Yes you are NOT (most of you at least). Thus where ever your place is, that insecurity will haunt you! Some more frequent than others. Lots of us deal with this insecurities by having that attitude as a cover up while some others deal with it in silence while commiting self-cutting ritual.



Tips number 2.



Stop acting or being dillusional that you are an adult. Are you? Okay unless you are able to afford your own holiday and have your own house and able to do whatever you want. Especially those who are in the beginning of their membership in the 20 syo club, who rampantly just started a career or still in college. Most likely you still live with your parents, share appartment with fellow students, live in a dormitory or such and such. Where you are bound to certain rules and authorities. Once you have the illusion of being an adult that is exactly when you started to act freely and most of the time conflict with some rules that you may consider "silly". Instead, do the middle way approach. You are not an adult yet no longer a Kid. Try to understand the rules or the authority let your self be heard (and you will be when you have your head in the right place) and discuss what you need and the kind of freedom and area in the rules where you may manuever and be compensated.



Tips number 3.



Fall in Love: with an inspiring person. Falling in love is a great thing and one of the thing that looks nice with youth. But that other half better give you that feel good vibe that is able to propel you forward in the direction YOU desire.

Tips number 4.

Stop trying so hard in being different. As much as you are different from that guy with long dyed hair and piercing all over his body just as similar you are to him as thinking or wanting to be different. When everybody else wants to be different then it is no longer different to be different.

SICK OF THIS POSITIVITY

Not exactly. What I mean is a fake positivity. Although I agree and perhaps so do you that it is nicer feeling to be positive. Imagine the last time when even the cloudiest day felt so warm and joyful and you just could not help yourself but feeling happy.

However that feeling of happiness which naturally breezes to our soul once in a while will not stay there forever. I am not sure if I should reason this but here is a thing: we live in the world of constant CHANGE, Ups and Downs, Yin and Yang, Good and Bad, and the list goes on. We live in the world of relative where we need a standard scale to measure things in order to tell if something is shorter or longer, heavier or lighter, faster or slower. All of these qualities are relative so is good and bad.

That being said, I agree that we should go the longest distance or reach the highest star or go the deepest ocean in the search of that one thing to perhaps make us feel accomplished. I would not say happy. Now I seem to start to contradict my self. I believe in the different poles that life has as much as I believe us human being have the capability to make options available for us and choose what ever our heart may.

Along the way we may feel dissapointed or failed. This is the time when we should not be putting a fake smile and tried to look at a brighter side. When it sucks it sucks. Example: I am still to date have not gotten my one million dollars while I am getting relatively older. Cry the loudest when you need to or slam all the doors when you are angry. Nothing wrong with it. Really nothing wrong.

The society we live in enforce and endorse the campaign to fake our feeling in books and seminars which I had consumed during my early teen years. BUT trust me my friend once in a while you fail and the dark clouds are hanging over you. Your relationship failed, you bumped into a rocky mountain. Then cry take a step back cry but do not whine. Cry when you need to cry. Until the next positive breeze enter your soul again and that you are ready for a new start.

Being Happy

Why do we need to feel happy?
Other than the fact that being happy or feeling happy keeps you young also being happy apparently makes you a better person. Who the hell loves the company of a nagging person who complain nothing but simply everything.

However shall it be enforced?